Our Love Agreements & Essential Oils – What Happens When We Fall Out of Love


This post is dedicated to our relationship and will remain here as a reminder that we can always find our way back to love, appreciation and deep intimacy with support from our family, community and agreements between each other. Thank you Audrey for being the human you are. Thank you Gong gong for all the support through these tough times. With love and gratitude Tumai


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Agreement #1

Let’s agree to hold space for each other as we navigate the right choice of words that express each others intentions

Agreement #2

Can you please help me understand alternative words that I can resonate with instead of the corporate choice of words you use?

Agreement #3

Let’s agree to give each other space right now because I can see we are both feeling tension with each other. So let’s do what we need to do individually and come back to each other when we’re feeling centred

Agreement #4

Let’s remind ourselves to acknowledge each other’s strengths and be vulnerable enough to ask each other for help on how to draw on those strengths

Agreement #5

Let’s agree to listen to each other for the sake of listening and not trying to fix each other


The Essential Oils For Audrey

  • Magnify Your Purpose
  • Abundance
  • White Angelica
  • Grounding


Magnify Your Purpose

The aroma of our Magnify Your Purpose™ essential oil blend stimulates creativity, desire, focus, and motivation, encouraging you to seize initiative when used aromatically. Use this stimulating and uplifting blend when seeking a boost in energy flow and creativity. Magnify Your Purpose has a light, flowery scent with earthy and spicy undertones, and may help banish negative feelings and promote focus and action in moving towards goals and dreams.

ESSENTIAL OILS: Royal Hawaiian Sandalwood, Sage, Patchouli, Nutmeg, Bergamot, Cinnamon Bark, Ginger, Ylang Ylang, Geranium

This special blend of essential oils can support us when we’re feeling confused. The alarm point or where to apply the oil is to the left of “L3” along the spine, which is located in the lower back region. The other side of this is “I am centred and focused”.



Abundance™ was created to enhance the frequency of the harmonic magnetic energy field that surrounds us. It combines oils which were used by ancient cultures to attract prosperity and magnify joy and peace. The rich, spicy aroma is uplifting and balancing, and helps to attract positive emotions and energy, opening us up to a wealth of possibilities.

ESSENTIAL OILS: Orange, Frankincense, Patchouli, Clove, Ginger, Myrrh, Cinnamon Bark, Spruce

When we’re feeling like we’re not enough, this blend is supportive. The alarm point is the heart centre or the mid chest area. The affirmation to use along with this oil is “I ask and I accept”.


White Angelica

White Angelica™ contains pure Melissa and Bergamot essential oils, promotes feelings of protection and security when diffused, and can be used to guard against negative energy. This wonderful essential oil blend is comforting, strengthening, grounding, balancing, and stabilising. Use White Angelica to help seal and support your aura, and reserve emotional energy.

ESSENTIAL OILS: Bergamot, Myrrh, Geranium, Sacred Sandalwood, Ylang Ylang, Coriander, Northern Lights Black Spruce, Melissa, Hyssop, Rose

This blend supports feelings of loneliness. Use it on the heart alarm point located below the ring finger on the left hand. The other side of loneliness is – connectedness with all that is. As you use this oil, use the affirmation “I go to a loving space”.



Grounding™ is a balancing blend of scents used for feelings of clarity or to enhance spirituality. Emotional chaos can lead to bad decisions – use Grounding to help you cope with reality in a positive manner. This wonderful essential oil blend is relaxing, stabilising, and calming, and may help with restlessness or during times of chaos. Combine with Clarity or Brain Power essential oil blends to help improve focus.

(This essential oil blend is marked as a dangerous good and therefore cannot be sent via express post.)

ESSENTIAL OILS: White Fir, Northern Lights Black Spruce, Ylang Ylang, Pine, Cedarwood, Angelica, Juniper

When feeling lost, this blend can help. The other side of this emotion is Direction. The affirmation to support this process is “I connect with my inner knowing”. Apply it to the lower part of your spine.


The Essential Oils For Tumai

  • Release
  • Harmony
  • Purification
  • Acceptance



Release™ is a blend with a relaxing aroma that facilitates the ability to let go of anger and frustration. It also promotes harmony and balance when diffused. Use this calming and grounding blend to help release negative emotions and move forward towards emotional freedom. Release can help increase emotional strength and encourage one to open up about the past or bottled feelings.

ESSENTIAL OILS: Ylang Ylang, Lavandin, Geranium, Royal Hawaiian Sandalwood, Grapefruit, Tangerine, Spearmint, Lemon, Blue Cypress, Davana, Lime, Ocotea, Jasmine, Matricaria, Blue Tansy, Rose

Supports love and works on feelings such as “wrong”, “dejection” and “loss of identity”. The alarm point is Eye/Brain which is located at the back of the sculp.



Harmony™ is a blend of pure essential oils that contains scents to provide an uplifting aromatic experience. This spiritual and emotional blend is balancing and calming, and may help with releasing emotional burdens, focus, stubbornness, or restlessness, by creating harmonic balance in the mind, spirit and body.

ESSENTIAL OILS: Royal Hawaiian Sandalwood, Lavender, Ylang Ylang, Frankincense, Orange, Angelica, Geranium, Hyssop, Sage, Northern Lights Black Spruce, Coriander, Bergamot, Lemon, Jasmine, Roman Chamomile, Palmarosa, Rose

Supports movement by working on “stubbornness”, “sarcasm” and even the feeling of “hostility”. The alarm point is the upper back and shoulders.



Purification® essential oil is made up of six essential oils for the ultimate weapon against odours. Citronella, Lavandin, Lemongrass, Rosemary, Myrtle, and Melaleuca Alternifolia work together to create a refreshing, bright scent that keeps the whole family happy and comfortable.

This wonderful essential oil blend is uplifting and refreshing, and may help purify and cleanse negative emotions and vibrations. With the power to freshen up any space, Purification will make an excellent addition to your collection.

ESSENTIAL OILS: Citronella, Rosemary, Lemongrass, Melaleuca Alternifolia, Lavandin, Myrtle

Helps release “violence” or “anger” (Liver) and supports recognition. The affirmation here is: “It is safe to be seen” and the other side of the recognition required is freedom. The alarm point for this essential oil and emotion is “filter” which is the top of the spine or the mid chest below the nipple area.



Containing Coriander and Geranium essential oils, Acceptance™ encourages feelings of self-worth and acceptance of others. This blend is great to have in your personal collection. Use this blend when going through a transition, trying to adapt to new changes, or taking on new ideas. Acceptance has a tranquil scent that inspires self-exploration, peace, and strength, and has a calming and balancing effect on the mind.

ESSENTIAL OILS: Coriander, Geranium, Bergamot, Frankincense, Royal Hawaiian Sandalwood, Neroli, Grapefruit, Tangerine, Spearmint, Lemon, Blue Cypress, Davana, Lime, Ocotea, Jasmine**, Matricaria, Ylang Ylang, Blue Tansy, Rose

Helps with emotions such as insecurity, embarrassment, and a lack of belonging. It provides a pathway to clarity due to its application on the alarm point called “fungus.” This works on our own misconceptions and opens our awareness to what is possible. The alarm point is the diaphragm.


Resource: “Releasing Emotional Patterns with Essential Oils” by Carolyn L. Mein, D.C.



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Audrey Li


Audrey is an experienced mother, aromatherapist, and coach with a deep connection to nature. She is passionate about advancing the understanding of aromatherapy and unlocking the full potential of essential oils

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Tumai Meroiti

Breathwork Facilitator

Tumai is an experienced Breathwork Facilitator and Business Coach. His goals include speaking on 100 stages around the world, creating an essential oils encyclopaedia, and developing a leadership program for therapists new to the business

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